So, it seems similar issues exist in gay and heterosexual relationships. I was at a meeting the other night where a recommendation for a popular, budget-approved improvement was being presented by a member of the specially-appointed interior committee. Mind you this member/man has been working on the project for months! Suddenly, his partner starts talking, emphatically stating that this particular improvement is not necessary, and it's a waste of money.

I sat there mystified for a moment and shocked by what seemed to be betrayal and sabotage by this guy's partner. It was really obvious how oblivious he was to undercutting.

Unquestionably, it brought back memories of my long-term relationship. I left the meeting with much empathy for the presenter, who may have brushed the offense off with a shrug, and a huge sigh of relief for myself that I no longer have to deal with that, a partner or anyone else who is disloyal and who works to diminish my efforts and value.

Reference again "Cumulative Erosion.”